Vices & Desires

A private community for kink, swinging and open relationships.

Friends, groups, munches and events with ID-verified adults. Nothing is visible from the outside, and consent is built into how people meet and message.

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Safer by design

The protections other sites leave to luck are part of how this one works.

Verified adults only: Every member passes an ID check before they can see anyone. We keep a pass or fail, never your ID.
Invisible from the outside: No public profiles, no member list, nothing in search engines. You choose which members can see you, too.
Messages you choose: Someone who isn't your friend gets one message, filed as a request. Nothing more until you accept.
Labels you both confirm: Partner and dynamic labels appear only after both people say yes, and either can remove them at any time.
Tags that don't make you a target: Sensitive tags like Unicorn or New to this stay hidden unless you choose to be found by them.
Photos checked first: Profile photos are reviewed before other members see them, and location data is stripped from every upload.

Everything a local scene needs, in one place

Friends and partners: Add friends, vouch for people you've met, and link partners and dynamics.
Groups: Local and interest groups for kink, swinging, poly and everything between.
Events and munches: Hosts approve RSVPs and can require vouches. Venues are shared only with confirmed guests.
Free education: Practical guides on consent, first meets and etiquette, open to everyone.

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